The Moment When a Child Rejects His Mother’s Blame
Dear Doctor: My mother experiences crippling back pain. She cannot stand straight or raise the spoon. Someone put my toy on the stairs. It was not me who did this, but my mother slipped on the toy and hurt her back more. She ran to the door of my room and yelled to me, “I hate you now! You have injured my back.” I am 10 years old. Shall I leave this place? — Number one hated sonDear #1: You must learn to ignore the things your mother says to you. She may indeed hate you. Many mothers do hate their children and blame them for their problems and the loss of their previous ways. This is life. She may love you very much also. However whether she loves you or does not love you is unimportant. The thoughts and feelings of others are inconsequential. You will soon learn that life is about suffering and survival. Those words your mother spoke to you will always serve as a reminder of that. Do not leave, and do not forget what she told you.
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